Leaders of the new light: How the feminine transforms leadership

The new model of leadership is founded on personal empowerment. At its core is heightened self-awareness and awakened consciousness. It isn’t so much about self-mastery as it is about the self-acceptance. The Taoists believed that all living things, including people, had an essential nature, an innate nature.

Once consciousness is invoked it permeates everything including the business enterprises we lead and serve. This emergent feminine energy will not announce its arrival. It will sweep forth like a tsunami underfoot. It’s power irresistible and unrelenting.

Unlike masculine power won from hard fought battle this tsunami effect is quite a natural phenomenon. In leadership parlance it does feed on power, control and authority structures and this is why it is more prevalent outside the traditional organisational structures that we know of in large corporations and government. It is also one reason why there is such perpetual struggle in these corridors of power.

In practical terms we work in a business, economic and technological environment unlike anything we have experienced before. This change is of our own doing. As Einstein so poignantly put it, “You cannot solve problems with the same level of thinking that created them”.

We need another way of approaching complex problems. A more feminine approach would be sit with the problem and its unresolved tension, expand our thinking, or better still let the tension bring forth am emergent solution of its own accord. These leaders of the new light are artisans at sitting with unresolved conflict, unsolved problems.

Heart guides will. Invite your intuition to guide you. Relax your highly tuned problem solving skills, which are the domain of the left hemisphere of your brain, and allow yourself to be guided by a felt sense of direction, purpose and resolution. Brian Tracy once coined the phrase, “As you take one step towards your goals, your goals take two steps towards you.” It is a bit like that. Trust in your intuition and that creative resolution will be invoked by your heart.

This feminine energy is omnipresent in business. It always has been; just like our intuition has always been available to us but we have stifled it through one dimensional learning methods like rote learning and homogenised success formulas in business and problem solving.

Ask any small business operator if they use a business plan and most will say they either don’t or they prepare one and shelve it. Now, I am an advocate of strategic planning. I am also an advocate of scenario planning, brainstorming and thinking outside the square.
The first question to ask is not, “How do I create success?” but rather, “Why am I in business?” in sequence the order of questioning is, Why, What and How?

There are three keys principles of the emergent feminine energy in leadership and business. They epitomise the invocation of the new light, a new light of consciousness awareness. They are:

Potential:  The epitome of the feminine is potential – unrealised potential. The expressions maximise your potential and reach your full potential are misleading. Unrealised potential knows no boundary, no ceiling. The feminine is a metaphor for universality or infinite possibility. The leaders of the new light accept and embrace the divinity that is inherent in all things. Genius springs forth in such an environment.

Space:  This notion of creating and holding space is at the core of all coaching engagements. It has its origins in ancient shamanistic practice and it is significant that it does. These leaders of the new light are leading us on a return voyage. A return to heartfelt leadership, values infused culture and a deeper exploration of what is purposeful and meaningful to us as individuals and collectively as humans. The adage, “If you want your outside world to change, you must be the change” holds true.

Flow:  When our hearts and souls are aligned with our purpose, mission and values then we are in flow with our innate nature. This is our innate state. This is how life works until you limit your beliefs, doubt yourself, place blocks and limitations in front of your feet. Beliefs like “You have to work hard to succeed” belong to a bygone era. Many of the inspirational quotes and elements of the success formulas were also penned in eras of war, lack or male domination. They served their time but the leaders of the new light will shine the way for you into the future.

The leaders of the new light, a new light of consciousness, start from a paradigm that you have potential (unlimited potential) and that when you aligned with your own heart you will evoke a creativity that is innovation at its core. And it is the most innate natural state you can live and love from.

What Happens if You Ignore Your Intuition?

Intuition is often described as the inner voice or gut feeling that gently nudges us toward a certain direction. It’s the deeper wisdom that transcends logic, offering guidance rooted in our authentic self. But what happens when we choose to ignore this quiet yet powerful inner knowing?

Ignoring your intuition can have subtle but significant consequences. At first, the effects may seem minor—like mild discomfort or feeling “off” about a situation. But over time, consistently dismissing this inner voice can lead to larger, more challenging issues.

1. Living Out of Alignment

One of the most noticeable consequences is feeling out of alignment with your true self. Intuition often guides us toward choices and paths that resonate with our soul’s purpose, helping us live authentically. When we ignore it, we can find ourselves making decisions based on external pressures, expectations, or fears. This disconnect can lead to a sense of dissatisfaction or feeling lost, as though we are living someone else’s life rather than our own.

2. Increased Stress and Anxiety

When we ignore our intuition, we often override feelings of discomfort or unease, pushing forward in situations that don’t feel right. This can increase stress and anxiety, as we’re not honoring our internal signals. Over time, this disconnection from our inner knowing can lead to burnout, emotional exhaustion, and even physical symptoms like headaches or fatigue.

3. Missed Opportunities

Intuition often leads us to the people, places, and experiences that are in alignment with our highest good. By ignoring it, we can miss out on opportunities that would bring us fulfillment or growth. Whether it’s a career move, a relationship, or a creative pursuit, bypassing intuitive insights can leave us feeling stuck or stagnant.

4. Regret and Second-Guessing

Many people who consistently ignore their intuition often look back with regret. They may find themselves wondering, “What if I had trusted that feeling?” or “Why didn’t I listen to myself?” This second-guessing can create a cycle of self-doubt, making it even harder to trust your inner voice in the future.

In the end, your intuition is there to guide you toward your most aligned and fulfilling life. Ignoring it can lead to unnecessary challenges, but the good news is that it’s never too late to start listening. Trusting your intuition is a practice—one that leads to a life of greater ease, flow, and authenticity.

What is evolution to heart consciousness?

Evolution to heart consciousness refers to a profound shift in how we perceive, experience, and navigate life—moving from a mindset dominated by the intellect (logic, ego, control) toward one guided by the heart (love, compassion, intuition). This journey signifies a deepening awareness of our connection to others, the world, and our own soul’s calling, often described as a spiritual awakening or transformation of consciousness.

At the core, heart consciousness is about living from a place of love and empathy rather than fear and separation. It’s a movement from self-centered survival instincts (which are often rooted in ego and competition) toward a collective, interconnected approach to life, where the well-being of others and the planet becomes as important as our own. This shift can be seen as an evolution because it represents a higher level of awareness—one that transcends basic instincts and mind-driven desires in favor of a more holistic and unified understanding of life.

The Path of Evolution to Heart Consciousness

Awakening to Inner Wisdom: The first step in this evolution is often a deeper connection with our intuition, or inner knowing. This intuitive guidance comes from the heart, rather than the mind, and allows us to make decisions aligned with our soul’s purpose. It encourages us to trust feelings of resonance, to embrace vulnerability, and to be guided by love.

Healing and Releasing Ego Patterns: As we move toward heart consciousness, we begin to see the limitations of ego-driven thinking—where control, fear, and separation dominate. The ego seeks to protect and defend, but often in ways that isolate us. Through healing and releasing these old patterns, we step into greater compassion and understanding, both for ourselves and others.

Embracing Oneness and Connection: Evolution to heart consciousness involves recognizing the interconnectedness of all beings. We begin to feel that our actions affect not only our immediate surroundings but also the larger collective. From this place of oneness, we naturally adopt more compassionate, collaborative approaches to life, seeking to uplift others rather than compete.

Living Authentically with Love: The culmination of this evolution is a life lived in alignment with love, authenticity, and integrity. It’s about expressing our true selves, free from the masks of ego, and allowing the heart’s wisdom to guide us in every decision. This type of consciousness brings peace, joy, and fulfillment, as we are no longer driven by external validation but by a deep sense of inner harmony.

In essence, evolution to heart consciousness is the next step in human growth, where love, connection, and compassion become the guiding forces of our actions. It represents a shift from surviving to thriving, from separation to unity, and from fear to love.

Instinct vs. Intuition: Understanding the Difference

Both instinct and intuition are powerful forms of guidance that often arise without conscious thought, yet they operate on fundamentally different levels of our being. To truly understand their distinction is to appreciate the roles they play in our lives.

Instinct, as many of us know, is rooted in survival. It’s hardwired into our biology, the legacy of countless generations who relied on it to stay alive. When faced with danger, our instinct kicks in, triggering the fight-or-flight response. It’s a reactive, automatic mechanism designed to protect us from physical harm. Whether we’re dodging a car in traffic or feeling uneasy around a certain person, instinct acts swiftly and universally. Its purpose is clear: survival.

Intuition, however, operates on a more subtle, spiritual plane. Unlike instinct, which is about immediate protection, intuition guides us toward alignment with our deeper purpose or soul’s calling. It’s that inner voice or gut feeling that whispers when something feels “right” or “off,” even without concrete evidence. Intuition draws from a reservoir of subconscious knowledge, experience, and a deeper sense of connection to our true path. While instinct reacts, intuition gently steers. It’s often the feeling that urges us to take a certain job, leave a relationship, or pursue a creative passion—even when it defies logic.

Many spiritual traditions hold that intuition is a form of guidance from the higher self or the soul. It helps us navigate life’s choices in a way that aligns with our authentic essence. The more we tune in to our intuition, the more we feel in flow with our life’s purpose. While instinct is universal—nearly every human and animal shares the same basic survival reactions—intuition is personal and unique to each individual. It evolves as we grow, offering insights not just about immediate situations, but about our life’s broader journey.

In essence, instinct is about survival, while intuition is about thriving. To live fully, we must learn to trust both—allowing instinct to protect us in the moment and intuition to guide us toward our soul’s true path.

Why is a midlife crisis such a powerful trigger for change?

A midlife crisis is a powerful trigger for change because it often represents a period of intense self-reflection, where individuals reassess their life choices, accomplishments, and the trajectory of their future.

Several factors contribute to this:

Awareness of Mortality: As people reach middle age, they become more conscious of their mortality, realizing that their time is finite. This realization can lead to a sense of urgency to make meaningful changes before it’s too late.

Unmet Expectations: By midlife, many people have established careers, relationships, and lifestyles that may no longer align with their core values or dreams. Discontent with where they are compared to where they thought they’d be can push them to re-evaluate their priorities.

Shifts in Identity: Life transitions, such as children leaving home, relationship changes, or career shifts, often occur in midlife. These changes can unsettle a person’s sense of identity, prompting them to seek new roles or passions to regain a sense of purpose.

Emotional and Psychological Imbalance: Feelings of dissatisfaction, regret, or a lack of fulfillment can surface during midlife, compelling individuals to address these emotions. This emotional turbulence can act as a catalyst for personal growth and transformation.

Desire for Authenticity: As people age, they may feel more inclined to live authentically, pursuing what genuinely makes them happy rather than conforming to societal or external expectations. This drive for authenticity can lead to significant life changes.

In essence, a midlife crisis acts as a powerful moment of reckoning, often encouraging people to realign their lives with their deeper aspirations, leading to positive personal growth.

About the author

Dennis Roberts is a personal coach, small business mentor and founder of CoachPRO – The Coaching Professionals. His work has won critical acclaim in both the academic and business communities.

Visit www.coachpro.com.au

Books I read: “”Uniting Sex, Self and Spirit …”

“Uniting Sex, Self and Spirit : Let the Body by Your Guide to New Consciousness and Deeper Spirituality in a Changing Age” by Genia Pauli Hadden

Uniting Sex, Self and Spirit: Let the Body Be Your Guide to New Consciousness and Deeper Spirituality in a Changing Age by Genia Pauli Hadden explores the integration of physical, emotional, and spiritual dimensions of being, emphasizing how the body serves as a guide to personal growth and deeper spirituality. Here are the key themes of the book:

1. Body as a Spiritual Gateway:

  • Hadden emphasizes that the body is not just a vessel but a sacred tool for spiritual awakening. She argues that we can achieve a greater consciousness by paying attention to the sensations, energy, and wisdom our bodies offer.
  • The body’s natural rhythms, feelings, and sexuality are presented as pathways to connect with higher consciousness and the divine.

2. Integration of Sex, Self, and Spirit:

  • The book promotes the integration of sexuality with spirituality, asserting that sexuality is a powerful energy that, when understood and respected, can lead to deeper self-awareness and spiritual enlightenment.
  • Hadden advocates for a holistic approach where sexual energy is not suppressed but embraced as part of one’s spiritual and personal evolution.

3. Healing and Wholeness:

  • Central to Hadden’s teachings is the idea that modern society often fragments the self, leading to disconnection between the mind, body, and spirit. She offers practices to reunite these aspects to achieve wholeness and balance.
  • This process of integration allows individuals to heal emotional and spiritual wounds by listening to the body’s messages and honoring its needs.

4. Challenging Traditional Paradigms:

  • Hadden challenges conventional religious and cultural views that separate sexuality and spirituality or view the body as sinful or inferior to the mind or spirit. She offers a redefinition of spirituality that honors the sacredness of the physical experience.
  • The book advocates for a shift away from dualistic thinking, where body and spirit are seen as separate, toward a unified vision of existence.

5. Consciousness and Energy Flow:

  • Hadden discusses the flow of energy within the body, including sexual energy, as a key to accessing higher states of consciousness. Practices that enhance energy awareness—such as breathing techniques, movement, and meditation—are suggested to help individuals tap into this flow.
  • The concept of kundalini energy is often implied, where awakening this energy leads to spiritual enlightenment and the full integration of body and spirit.

6. Sacred Sexuality and Tantric Elements:

  • The book draws upon elements of sacred sexuality and Tantra, where sexuality is seen as a spiritual practice. By engaging in mindful, loving sexual relationships, individuals can experience deeper connections with themselves and others, transcending purely physical pleasure to reach spiritual bliss.
  • Sacred sexuality is presented as a means to awaken divine energy within the body.

7. Transformation in a Changing Age:

  • Hadden writes about the spiritual shifts in contemporary society, where there is a growing openness to integrating body and spirit. She argues that as society evolves, people are increasingly looking for ways to unify their personal, sexual, and spiritual identities.
  • The book offers tools to navigate these changes, encouraging individuals to trust their bodies as they move through spiritual transformation.

8. Empowerment and Authenticity:

  • By aligning with the body’s natural wisdom, Hadden asserts that individuals can experience greater empowerment and authenticity. She encourages readers to embrace their bodies, their sexual desires, and their spiritual longings without shame or fear.
  • Authenticity is a key to living a spiritually fulfilling life, where one’s true self is expressed fully, both in physical and spiritual terms.

9. Mindfulness and Embodiment:

  • The book stresses the importance of mindfulness and being fully present in the body. Practices such as mindful movement, meditation, and conscious touch are recommended to help people reconnect with their bodies and experience life more deeply.
  • Hadden encourages a shift from intellectual or abstract spiritual practices to those that involve being fully embodied, experiencing the world through the senses.

10. Personal Journey and Inner Wisdom:

  • The path to uniting sex, self, and spirit is portrayed as a deeply personal journey. Hadden provides guidance but emphasizes that each person’s experience of spirituality through the body will be unique.
  • She urges readers to trust their own inner wisdom and the messages their bodies send, suggesting that the body holds the key to personal transformation and spiritual awakening.

In summary, Uniting Sex, Self and Spirit seeks to bridge the often-separated realms of sexuality and spirituality, encouraging readers to view the body as a sacred, powerful tool for spiritual growth. Hadden promotes a holistic and integrated approach to living, where embracing physical experiences, particularly those involving sexuality, leads to a fuller and more profound connection with the self and the divine.

About the author

Dennis Roberts is a personal coach, small business mentor and founder of CoachPRO – The Coaching Professionals. His work has won critical acclaim in both the academic and business communities. Visit www.coachpro.com.au